first haircut experience: mom’s perspective

I finally cut Enzo’s gorgeous locks… and it is SO bittersweet.

First of all, YES, we have often had people mistake E for a girl because of his long hair. Most of the time, he wore it in a bun but nonetheless, people (especially older people) just have a hard time equating long hair with little boys. I know that is bothersome to some, but to me? I don’t care. His hair is thick and curly and silky and I was — and still am — worried about the curl pattern changing after cutting it. So for me, a random person in the grocery store or at a restaurant telling me, “she’s so cute” was literally not an issue (especially at this age when E doesn’t even barely understand pronouns himself.) If someone continued a conversation with us at some point I would throw in, “he ….” and they’d usually say, “oh my gosh! I’m so sorry! That hair is just beautiful so I assumed he was a girl but now that you say that, he’s so handsome. I’m sorry!” Truly, people are just being nice and complimenting your kid. It is not a big deal if they get it wrong.

So why now? Well, E’s hair was quite long… literally down to his butt when wet. And even his baby hairs had taken on a life of their own and basically functioned like odd bangs that easily escaped his brushed-back hair. So once E finally told me that he wanted his hair cut (probably after one too many times trying to eat his food but having to pull hair out of his mouth), I scheduled a secret appointment. Secret from him until the day of because I couldn’t risk him saying something prematurely, and secret because I didn’t tell Haroon that an appointment was scheduled. (FYI, Haroon and I had previously discussed the first haircut and he was not attached to being at that appointment, he was simply excited for it to take place.)

Here’s how the appointment went: we took pictures out front of Wild Child to commemorate the event, went inside, were immediately shown to Janet’s station where she had an airplane chair for Enzo to sit in, E was able to select a show to watch, I showed her a picture of what I was thinking and asked for her to send me home with a few ringlets, she spritzed his hair with water (and was shook by how much hair he has/had), we listened to another child scream bloody murder and cry (which concerned me because I thought E might decide the experience was scary… but he simply side-eyed the other child in the mirror), Janet cut and cut and cut until we got what we thought was a good start at least for this first appointment, E was perturbed to have gotten hairs all over him despite the smock — he really doesn’t like to be dirty — so she got as much off as she possibly could, I went to pay but found out they only accept cash or check (I feel like this should have been included in the confirmation emails and texts but she was very chill about me running to the ATM), E went into the waiting area and interrupted other kids reading books with their mommies (thankfully they were all very kind and understanding), Janet offered a lollipop for E which I politely declined, and then we left and took a few more photos. All in all, it was quite uneventful and because I had to be involved to make sure he was following instructions/get him to turn his head, etc., I barely had a moment to feel sad as his beautiful curls fell to the floor. Janet was kind. The place seemed clean. The appointment ran on time. E didn’t mind the cut. I mean… what more could you ask for in a first haircut experience?

All that to say, the actual haircutting appointment didn’t end up being as tear-jerking as I had assumed, but I am absolutely still in my feels that he looks so much older now. Because he is so tall and talks so much, he already gets mistaken for being older than he is quite often, so this has only increased how old he looks… and that makes me sad. He looks like a full on little child, not just a little 2 year old toddler. But, like all things when it comes to first experiences with kids, it had to happen at some point and I’m glad it was as easy as it was for E (and for me.)

If you’re curious about how Haroon learned of the cut, here’s what I did… I made a “Happy Early Father’s Day” sign and took pictures of Enzo holding it. Then I put the sign and a baggy of the hair for him to find when he got home for work. E was already asleep but then I was able to show many pictures of the whole experience and then all the fun ones with the little sign I made.  He was thrilled and ultimately I got to wait to cut E’s hair until it felt right to me… so it was a win.

And why did I need multiple ringlets? Well, I probably didn’t need multiple but I got box frames to put them in. YES, I know… it is a little bit different. Most people just save a piece in their memory book or whatever. But, hey, I never claimed to be normal! Also, it will be on display in my bedroom or bathroom or something like that… no one will be forced to unexpectedly see a ringlet when they come over haha.

If your little one’s first haircut is coming up and you don’t feel ready… wait! What’s the hurry? But truth be told, you — like me — may never feel totally ready, and that’s okay too. Hair grows back and I have to say, it really is something to watch your kid hit all these fun little firsts.

Now I just have to figure out the best way to do his hair (and make it stay without being stiff and crunchy… ) so I’m onto the next mom “thing.” Haha.

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