Idk what it is exactly about holidays and toddlers, but sometimes they just don’t mix. Yesterday, the 4th of July, was one of those days for us… and you know what? That’s okay.
Sure, in the moment it’s really quite frustrating… “this is supposed to be a fun day,” but in the grand scheme of things… it’s actually very normal for toddlers to have a hard time with all the excitement and changed routine surrounding holidays. In fact, @biglittlefeelings — two moms who I would consider experts on children — posted on Instagram,
“This 4th of July remember that toddlers have more meltdowns during…
- Parties and gatherings
- New places
- Loud noises
- Being out of routine”
All that to say, even though Enzo had a full meltdown when I put him in his 4th of July shirt… flailing around, screaming, crying and telling me that it’s “too long” (whatever that means… MAJOR eye-roll moment haha) I just took off the shirt, picked one he’s worn before, and brought his 4th of July shirt with us. Later, I was able to get him to put it on over his other shirt for exactly two pictures with me and called it good.
Upon doing his Holiday PomPom bath, he had to get out almost immediately because he was screaming about not having poured the pompoms in himself (even though we’ve always done it where they were poured on top of him so I couldn’t have known this would be a problem) and therefore proceeded to lose it in the tub and splash water all over the bathroom. Not my favorite way to end our day but hey… it’s not the end of the world, just an activity that didn’t go as expected.
So mommies (and daddies and any other caregivers out there), just remember, the fun little “things” you want to do for your child to celebrate holidays may not go as expected… but if we can brush off our own frustration and annoyance (and meet our kids where they’re at), the day will be much smoother… well to a degree lol. Being a sense of calm is certainly better than adding to the chaos and amping the situation up.
And you know, here’s to hoping the next holiday goes according to plan! 🙂 You got this!
P.S. I did get short videos of each meltdown — neither started as “meltdown” videos… I thought we would be capturing the fun he was having — so in the event we want to look back on the day and are wondering why so few pictures, we will have our answers. Ha!